Working in an office setting for many years, I am now realizing that there are a lot of insecure woman in the workforce today. It is quite baffling that I never knew this until now.
Why is it so blatantly visible? Why did I not see this before?
I must admit that it is quite dishearten to see woman behave as if they have never been loved. Myself being a woman, am wondering, what are their personal relationships like?
The only glimpse into these women lives that can be gathered is from what they emit into the work environment.
Take a moment and ask yourself, am I venomous or non-venomous?
The work environment that I work in is full of bitter women. Clearly, this behavior is conveyed into the workplace each time one of them enters and exits for the day. I fell to believe that it is the job itself that causes them to behave so malicious.
I have asked several of these women if she would be willing to work from home if the opportunity arose. As you already know the answer was, “no.”
The women that I work with are here more hours during the week than they are at home with their families. They walk in the door in the morning with indifferent behaviors and attitudes, and I am not opposed to the fact that not everyone is a morning person. It is the mere fact that one would come to work and find any minuet thing to ignite conflict.
For example; they punch in for the day and go to a shared printer and began to examine why no one replenished the paper from the following work day. Then will proceed to come over to my desk to make a big spectacle so that those who she believe to be guilty can hear her rants about how they are using up the paper printing pertinent work materials and not retrieving more paper for the printer area. We all know that when we work with others it can be somewhat overbearing from time to time, due to different personalities, work ethics, and behaviors.
Imagine this type of behavior on a daily basics and then some. Petty, Petty, Petty.
Some days it goes as far as I am to advance for the work that is assigned to me; you need to have someone else do this work and allow me to do what I have been doing. It gets better; we go as far as to research what person work an account that we believe to not be worked the way we see fit so we take it upon ourselves to confront the person as if we are the supervisor.
If we do not know who the guilty party is we will then call other co-workers over to see if they recognize the initials of the person who work the account.
“Shall I precede, yes indeed?” The women that I work with go as far as to come over to speak with you just to see what you are doing on your computer. Oh, and let’s not forget when you are eating something, they feel the need to tell you that they do eat what you eat, and how you should not be eating so much food at a specific time of day. If this is not insanity, what is?
Where are your earrings? You better keep walking because I have loss so much weight…Blah, Blah, Blah! To go out your way for no rhyme or reason to maliciously sabotage someone’s else day, you truly are a venomous person.
Let us examine ourselves to assure accountability for our actions and behaviors. When we purposefully go out of our ways to inflict pain on others we need to self-reflect as to why we are behaving so childishly.
What do you accomplish when you behave in such a derogatory way? Are you trying to alert others that you are hurting? Do you feel a lack of self-love?
If there are things going on with you that is causing you to want to lash out at other, you may want to seek a professional counsel to assist with coping with your real issues.
Most places of employment have an Employment Assistance Program or you can use your insurance to seek counseling outside of the workplace. Remember that the only way for us to fix our problems is to first admit that we have a problem.
Each and every one of us have things that we struggle with and behaviors and habits that we need to keep in check. Continuous improvement of self is always a great asset. Remember a healthy mind leads to healthy behaviors. Love yourself.
Written by: -L.J. 10/09/2018