Working in an office setting for many years, I am now realizing that there are a lot of insecure woman in the workforce today. It is quite baffling that I never knew this until now.

Why is it so blatantly visible? Why did I not see this before?

I must admit that it is quite dishearten to see woman behave as if they have never been loved. Myself being a woman, am wondering, what are their personal relationships like?

The only glimpse into these women lives that can be gathered is from what they emit into the work environment.

Take a moment and ask yourself, am I venomous or non-venomous?

The work environment that I work in is full of bitter women. Clearly, this behavior is conveyed into the workplace each time one of them enters and exits for the day. I fell to believe that it is the job itself that causes them to behave so malicious.

I have asked several of these women if she would be willing to work from home if the opportunity arose. As you already know the answer was, “no.”

The women that I work with are here more hours during the week than they are at home with their families. They walk in the door in the morning with indifferent behaviors and attitudes, and I am not opposed to the fact that not everyone is a morning person. It is the mere fact that one would come to work and find any minuet thing to ignite conflict.

For example; they punch in for the day and go to a shared printer and began to examine why no one replenished the paper from the following work day. Then will proceed to come over to my desk to make a big spectacle so that those who she believe to be guilty can hear her rants about how they are using up the paper printing pertinent work materials and not retrieving more paper for the printer area.  We all know that when we work with others it can be somewhat overbearing from time to time, due to different personalities, work ethics, and behaviors.

Imagine this type of behavior on a daily basics and then some. Petty, Petty, Petty.

Some days it goes as far as I am to advance for the work that is assigned to me; you need to have someone else do this work and allow me to do what I have been doing.  It gets better; we go as far as to research what person work an account that we believe to not be worked the way we see fit so we take it upon ourselves to confront the person as if we are the supervisor.

If we do not know who the guilty party is we will then call other co-workers over to see if they recognize the initials of the person who work the account.

“Shall I precede, yes indeed?”  The women that I work with go as far as to come over to speak with you just to see what you are doing on your computer. Oh, and let’s not forget when you are eating something, they feel the need to tell you that they do eat what you eat, and how you should not be eating so much food at a specific time of day. If this is not insanity, what is?

Where are your earrings? You better keep walking because I have loss so much weight…Blah, Blah, Blah! To go out your way for no rhyme or reason to maliciously sabotage someone’s else day, you truly are a venomous person.

Let us examine ourselves to assure accountability for our actions and behaviors. When we purposefully go out of our ways to inflict pain on others we need to self-reflect as to why we are behaving so childishly.

What do you accomplish when you behave in such a derogatory way? Are you trying to alert others that you are hurting? Do you feel a lack of self-love?

If there are things going on with you that is causing you to want to lash out at other, you may want to seek a professional counsel to assist with coping with your real issues.

Most places of employment have an Employment Assistance Program or you can use your insurance to seek counseling outside of the workplace.  Remember that the only way for us to fix our problems is to first admit that we have a problem.

Each and every one of us have things that we struggle with and behaviors and habits that we need to keep in check. Continuous improvement of self is always a great asset. Remember a healthy mind leads to healthy behaviors. Love yourself.


Written by: -L.J. 10/09/2018

You’ve Been Booed Baskets

You_ve Been Booed Basket

The spreading of joy and my gift of giving is one of my most valuable attributes.  I enjoy coming up with ways to make those that I love and care for feel special and appreciated. I often chose not to participate in workplace parties and functions, but there are always those special someone’s that make me feel as equally loved and appreciated.  I don’t know about you, but when others do kind and selfless deeds for me, it makes me want to reciprocate my showering of love even more.

Easter fell on the 1st Sunday of April therefore; I started off by secretly “Egging” several of my co-workers in the month of March so that the fun could extend until Easter.  I thought that it would be a great way to break up the monotony in the work environment as well as an offer up of fun and creativity.  I do not have any photographs of the, “You’ve Been Egged” treats that I passed out during this time but I am going to share with you the “You’ve Been Booed” baskets that I created to extend the fun in the workplace for the month of October.

In case you did not know, “You’ve Been Booed” or “You’ve Been Egged” is a tradition where you secretly leave treats for your neighbors with a sign telling them that they’ve” Been Booed” or “Egged.” You are to include instructions for your neighbor(s) to continue with the fun.  In a few days your neighbors are to secretly “Egg “or” Boo” other neighbors that have not been “Booed” or “Egged.”

Before putting together my “You’ve Been Booed” baskets I thought that it would be a nice gesture to include treat items that would not only be a representation of Halloween but had flair of fall.  I wanted to personalize my baskets like the personalities of my family and co-workers.  I purchased the following treat items to include in my You’ve Been Booed Baskets:

  • Peanut Butter Cups
  • Peanut Butter Kisses
  • Pumpkin Spice Pretzels
  • Autumn Candy Mix
  • Instant Coffee Singles
  • Lemon Ginger Tea
  • Biscotti
  • Nestle Hot Chocolate
  • Miniature Candy Bar Assortment

To add some color and pizzazz I placed some of the treat items into decorative cellophane bags and paper snack bags. I also, placed some of the items inside of coffee mugs and other plastic canisters. I used Halloween garland, small gable boxes, plastic spider rings, selfie props, Halloween printed socks, and small Halloween decorations to complete my baskets.

Remember that creativity goes along way and you do not have to break the bank to give a gift of enlightenment.   Always take time out of your busy schedule to do something for someone else; it is the small things that mean the most.

Written by: -L.J. 10/07/2018


Are you a crab in the barrel? Do you envy others? Are you jealous? Take a moment and ask yourself these very important questions. Be totally truthful with yourself.

If you answered yes, ask yourself, “Why am I this way?” “How do I overcome this crab in a barrel mentality?”

Every one of us know of someone who behaves in this manner (it can very well be ourselves) and it can be quite challenging to connect and have a healthy relationship with them. As we all very well know, “Hurt People” hurt others. When we understand that any healthy relationship starts with us. If you do not love yourself, how can you love anyone else? If we are hurting, we are going to hurt someone else. When we hurt others we somehow believe that we unintentionally hurt them. This analogy can be a very false form of thinking. My belief is that we need to go back to the very beginning of our lives to see where this wayward thinking began. Who hurt you? Do you believe that by hurting someone else that they are going to feel the pain that you feel? No one else can read your mind and know what you are feeling.

When you go to the doctor you have to tell the physician what is ailing you before you can be diagnosis with a condition or illness. Can we all agree that healthy communication about the way we are feeling is key? Make sure that we are being truthful about our feelings and not trying to gain sympathy. Get to know yourself so that you can really know how to validate our own feelings. Blaming others for how we are feeling is not the answer. Each of us play a role in our happiness as well as our unhappiness, which is why we can never put all the blame on anyone else. Love, Love, Love yourself…I cannot express it enough.

Many households and workplaces today are filled with a bucket of crabs. It is that adversary behavior that keeps us mentally exhausted. You come home to it and you go to work with it. When does it end? Or is it a never ending story?

Nip it in the bud… take personal ownership of your own behavior and actions. If you are the “Elephant in the room.” It is your responsibility to own your own mess. No one should have to clean up the mess of a capable adult.  Like parents use to say, “You mess it up, you clean it up.”

First thing first, own it. Admitting that you are the problem is the only way that you will be able to fix the problem. No, not all of it is yours but you are honing in on yourself. Remember that we can only change ourselves; we cannot change anyone else. The truth hurts but it is the only way that we can create the positive transformation within ourselves. We are a creatures of habit and change is not easy. It takes many failed attempts before we can see results; but “practice makes perfect.” Try and try again until you get it right.

Allow yourself some “get to know myself time.” Tune out the world; turned off the television, social media, monitor your phone calls, limit your association at and away from work. Go to a quiet place and allow yourself plenty of uninterrupted alone time. We like to say, that there is not enough hours in the day but remember we make time for all the things we deem important.  A healthy mind, heart, and spirit is of great importance because it is what emits from your spirit. This is what you put out into the universe and it is what everyone else sees. This is what you will start to see as well. When we know better, we do better.

Now that you are quiet and alone, question yourself? For example: Who am I? What do I love about me? Am I happy with myself? What do I need to change about myself to make me love me and be a better me for me? Give yourself pep talk, affirmations and reminders why it is important for you to be a better you.
Question everything and everyone? Surround yourself with positive people and environments. Be comfortable in the skin and body that you are in. No two people are alike and we are created differently for a reason. Many of times we want to fit our square peg in a circle; it won’t fit. Just be who you are but you cannot be you until you find out who you are. Do not keep being a Crab; pulling others down because you are hurting, miserable, ashamed, jealous, competitive; you name it. Let this saga end…begin a new chapter.

Know that we do not have stay the same and not all days will be full of roses but we can make the best out of any circumstance.

Life is full of ups and downs and no matter what someone else’s life or lifestyle seems to you; they are not without pitfalls. Some people realize that life is what you make it and some things in life are out of our control. But despite all; it is our own desire and willingness to live a happy productive life style.

Keep looking inward and continue improving yourself. The grass is never as green as you make think…it only seems that way. Find things in life that makes you content; going for walks, cooking, reading, and going to the movies alone. Do what makes you smile; know that everyone is not going to like you, no matter how hard you try. It’s totally okay.

Remember to love yourself and the people that love you.

Written by: -L.J. 09/14/2018



“Everybody’s got a holiday
Some got Christmas and new years
But every Friday’s mine, I got fifty two a year.” – Z.Z. Hill

As the lyrics of Z.Z. Hill’s Blues song, “Friday Is My Day,” resonate in my ears, a burst of joy over fills my entire being. The thought of returning home and relaxing takes me to eternal bliss . No early rising on Saturday morning. But who wants to think of Saturday when Friday is all I need. After work, Friday evenings belong entirely to me. I get to decide if I want to stay in or if I want to go out. Most of the time, I opt to stay in, getting totally cozy with myself… let’s not forget the threesome I have with my pillows and blankets. It just me and bedroom. 

Working five days a week and attending early morning worship service on Sunday mornings leave me yearning for some me time. It has been a long time coming, but I have learned to take advantage of this time. I have become totally selfish with my time.  In order for me to make this “me time” manageable, preparing multiple meals on Thursday evening allows me to have a day off from cooking. Therefore, everyone can go for themselves. And no, it is not considered left overs; it is not the same meal that we have eaten on yesterday.

A nice warm bath sounds so delightful… with a few squirts of hydrogen peroxide, white distilled vinegar, a handful of pink Himalayan salt, baking soda and hint of Epsom salt. Talking about a bath filled with water that feels ever so pure, your body longing to stay submerged forever.  I don’t want to get out. Psst, I brush, floss, and gargle before taking my bath.

When I get out of the tub, I dry off lightly with my bath towel. Coconut oil, Shea butter, 100% glycerin, or lotion will not be applied to the bare skin of my body. Depending upon my mood I will make that decision before getting dressed in the A.M. Totally nude…Totally natural. Placing my hair bonnet on my head, I then apply witch hazel onto a cotton round and clean my face. Everything else can wait until the morning. Ahem, except my nightie. 

Mr. Bed, Mr. Bed; what time is it? Ready or not here I come…

Scripture reading, Netflix, YouTube Vlogs…you name it. Or I call my daughter on the phone and see if she’s interested in company. If she says yes, then I throw on a Caftan and head to her bedroom across the hall and we watch a movie together. When the movie ends, I head back across the hall into my “Me Time” quarters. It’s just me and my Bedroom. Lights Out!!!

Always find some reprieve for yourself. You are important and your overall well being matters. Allow yourself time away from it all. Life…

Written by: -L.J. 09/07/2018




It is always a pleasure to be in the company of those who wish you well.
You know when you have exchanged friendship for family, you can always tell.
Those whom are dear seem more like a brother, a sister, a father or a mother.
You become so connected, so familiar with one another.
Sharing with each other our stories of both happiness and pain.
No cattiness, competition, for we are family, what do we have to gain?
Always supportive of each others accomplishments, success and dreams.
We are always there for each other it seems.
No envy, no jealousy, nor animosity in our hearts;
With exchanges of smiles, hugs, and warm wishes; nothing can keep us apart.